Most people have three primary phases to life. The young look forward to what they will do in the future. Those in the middle years are busy fulfilling their occupations and the old look back over time reminiscing of what they would do differently if they could.
Unfortunately, for many, only as they look backwards do they learn the truth. That God, the wife and the kids didn’t want money and things as much as they wanted them. They wanted a relationship, love and more time to be with them. They want to feel loved, wanted, and a part of your life.
The Bible spells out our priorities as being God first, then spouse, then kids, and last is our job.
Jesus replied: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind (Matthew 22:37). You shall have no other gods before me (Exodus 20:3).
God gives each of us a certain amount of time and time is a resource to be invested. There is a need to invest time to provide for our family, but there also is a point where we have provide all of the basic family needs and we continue to plunge forward and invest in our desires. We get back from that which we invest. If we invest in our job, we get back things. If we invest in our God and family, we get back loving relationships, joy, peace, and abundance. It all depends on how we allocate and invest the time God has given us.
Jesus said, I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly (John 10:10).
If you ask those in the middle group who they are, most, especially men, will often name their occupation as who they are. They see who they are as what they do. They are a plumber, an electrician, a manager and that their primary role in life is to earn or make as much money for their family as they possible can. But our occupation is not who we are but what we do. Who are we? We are children of our heavenly Father. We need to put God first in our life. Anything can become a god to us - anything we worship or invest an excessive amount of time into. We need to ask ourselves, am I putting God first in my life or am I making excuses why I do not have time for God? There is always time for that which is most important in our lives.
What is most important in your life? If it is not God, then spouse, then kids, you are not prioritizing your life and time in a manor that is pleasing to God and that will provide you the greatest joy and peace in your life.
To renew your marriage, start investing your time into your spouse by picturing them as when you where first dating. As you see them young, vibrant, and loving, you will start to again treat them as you originally did, and in time they will start to respond as they did in the beginning.
God wants us to have an abundant life, but to receive; we need to prioritize our life.
It is never to late to improve the rest of your life with God and your family. As you trust God to provide, you can live in His abundance.
In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success (Proverbs 3:6).